duality

one very important lesson after decades of personal experience : the distinction between “good” and “bad” usually very blur. can change quickly over time. very often appear together.

what seems so good at the beginning can turn out as a great challenge; what considered “not good”, not so much as expected after all.

people we trusted 100%, never double, fully open our hearts to after decades, might one day reveal secrets that have been kept for yrs. in fact they might have never treated us the same.

places, people, habit, activities, possessions,… that we once thought so important to us might not be that indispensable. in fact we might feel much lighter after letting go

things / situations that most people considered good .e.g marriage, being financially supported, have a good job, nice car… might actually be sweet traps to tie one down.

2 sides of the same coin go hand in hand :

with stability, we lose flexibility/ opportunities to take other options

in partnership /marriage / employment… we lose much / at least some of our freedom

being exposed to some goodies all the time, we tend to look for better goodies, thus likely greater disappointment

in being healed / care of all the time, we lose our ability to look after/ heal ourselves..

having someone to depend upon, we become less and less independent

“disasters” / shocks turned out to be blessing in disguise / necessary evils

“success” / “achievement” later proved to be too costly…

this is not to say we cannot have goals / preferences / working hard towards something we want / like.

just that yin / yang often shift quickly as people / situation / perspectives change.

to fully accept what is, focus on the good, while remaining faithful that all happen for a reason and all is well will sure lighten us up.

may we all drop our seriousness, laugh more, enjoy all circumstances that we co create, so as to light up not only our lives, but others

Sat Nam Deep I

Namaskar